Embracing Complexity

I loved having such clear answers to questions many struggle to answer their entire lives. But embedded in this simply beautiful plan were requirements that felt impossible for me to fulfill authentically. According to Mormon doctrine, if I hoped for eternal exaltation, I needed to marry a woman in a Mormon temple. If I didn't complete this commandment I wouldn't get to be with God or my family for eternity. As a gay man, this particular commandment felt overwhelming. And the more I strived to obey it, the more hopeless I felt. Did God set me up to fail?

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Paradigms

Paradigms. They’re a thing. It’s hard to know you live in one until you have an experience that pulls you out of it. Then, before you fully grasp what has happened, you find yourself standing at a glass window looking in at yourself existing in a world that has shaped who you are and affected your decisions on a level much deeper than you realized, mostly unaware of what’s outside. Paradigms aren’t bad, but it’s good to know which one you exist in and how it fits in a world made up of thousands of paradigms different than yours.

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